I’ve had–without exaggeration–what feels emotionally like the best weekend I’ve ever experienced. I also had a lot of fun! Lately, every experience I have (especially emotionally!) is as though I am just now experiencing it for the first time. (Someday, ask me about the first time I ate a Gala apple since transition. It was so delicious I almost cried.)
On the visible side: (initials changed to preserve some semblance of anonymity)
I had a coffee date with K, tea with a friend N, an evening of games with friends BFHS, a lovely dinner cooked with a friend’s boyfriend W, a few drinks with newly engaged friends O and P, and lunch with more friends. I received a phonecall and an official letter from my health insurance approving my appeal to cover GRS. Aaaand I have a date to pick wild berries tomorrow!
A notable aside: the relief I feel from transition–at finally starting to break free from dysphoria for at least short periods of time, at blending naturally, and at being accepted as a woman without hesitation–is evident in the way I sit, listen, and speak.
Emotionally, it’s been a tangled mess of dozens of intense, similar, positive emotions. I started off unbelievably excited and happy for O and P, and the date with K was enormously uplifting. N made me really happy, and I thoroughly enjoyed games with BFHS. That’s when it started getting Interesting.
I felt on Thursday night that I had developed a little crush on B. She’s awesome–but we’d never have a relationship, and my feelings were emotionally out of place. After a few drinks on Friday with O, I realized that over the last few months my feelings towards O have increased tenfold. She played a Really Big part in keeping me sane and alive through early transition, and I will be eternally grateful to her for that. Moreover, I’ve grown to care deeply for her, admire her, and…love her. Waaait. Wait. That last part can’t be right. I went across that back and forth a dozen times, but I couldn’t define it any other way. Love. I figured that my emotions must be a little garbled by drinking, so I slept on it.
In the morning, I meditated on my emotions, and I still couldn’t deny that what I feel for her is stronger than any feeling of love that I’ve ever experienced. When I specifically phrased it that way, the situation was clear: I’ve truly never experienced any emotions on that level before. That doesn’t make it love. She is a friend and a confidante. I trust her, I care for her, and I admire her. That’s it. The feelings I have for her are simply those feelings.
It’s mindblowing to realize how different, intense, and nuanced emotions are now that I’ve been on HRT for almost 5 months! If this is what it feels like to care for someone as a friend, I eagerly await falling in love, again, but for the first time.